人们会通过一个人的消费行为判断他的社会身份，所以我们用物质来展现那个想让别人看到的“我”。我们在多大程度上依赖于物质取决于我们有多需要维持那个理想中的“我”。比如，当我真的很想别人认为我是个时尚精致的人，那我就会在衣服和化妆品消费得更多。尤其当我们的社会身份还没有完全形成时，越是需要这种消费信息向外界强化我们的身份。比如，青春期的男生可能会喜欢车，烟，因为可以强化他的男子气概。这让我想到了人们常说的，一个人越是缺什么越是要向别人显示什么。但是当我们给予物质的意义越多，失去时就会越痛苦。所以我想，少一些身外之物，不把物质的东西看得那么重要，或许是明智的选择。毕竟，等真正离开的那天，也不能带去另一个世界，或许那个时候也并不重要了。
You are what you consume.
People use an individual’s consumption behaviors to identify that person’s social identity.
We’re attached to an object to the extent we rely on it to maintain our self-concept.
Our use of consumption information to define the self is especially important when we have yet to completely form a social identity, such as when we have to play a new role in life.
The contribution of possessions to self-identity is perhaps most apparent when we lose these treasured objects.
Consumer Behavior — Buying, Having, and Being by Michael R. Solomon
In fact, we can think of marketing as a system that provides certain standards of living to consumers. 有时候我们觉得需要某些东西，但其实这些东西并不是我们真正需要的，而是别人让我们以为我们需要。
Self-esteem refers to the positivity of a person’s self-concept. People with low-esteem expect that they will not perform well, and they will try to avoid embarrassment, failure, or rejection. 因为害怕尴尬，担心失败，不想被拒绝，所以不去尝试。但是只要勇敢迈出一步，经历一次，你会发现，很多事只要全力去做，其实没有想象的那么难。尴尬，失败，也不是问题，因为没有那么多人会注意到的，你要克服，面对的是你自己。
The road to hell is paved with good intentions. It is about the difference between what someone intends to do and what they actually do.
Potential is always bigger than the problem.
You’re not really attracting things to you. You’re really radiating.
Do not deny the moment. Resisting the moment is only gonna create more anxiety and more upset. In most cases, it’s not the conditions of the situation that you’re in that cause the unhappiness. It’s the mind telling you something about this moment that causes the unhappiness.
Super Soul
You don’t just sit back and hope for the best. Move.