13 Things to Be a Mentally Strong Person

This is what I’ve learned from Amy Morin, a psychotherapist and the international bestselling author. I decide to write down my reflections so that I won’t forget.

1. Don’t waste time feeling sorry for myself. Admit that life is difficult, and isn’t always fair. Take my responsibility. There’s no need to complain about circumstances or people around me.
2. Don’t give away my power. I always have choices, even if I have to give up something. That’s the choice I make, not anyone else makes me. I have control over my emotions and how I respond.
3. Don’t shy away from change. I don’t like change, to be honest. However, this year I began with making some minor changes on my life, say try food never eat, road never take, people never talk to. Not all changes are bad.
4. Don’t waste energy on things I can’t control. Things like whether people like me or not, parcel cancelled due to COVID, or traffic jam. Focus on what I can do and my attitude to them.
5. Don’t worry about pleasing everyone. I didn’t do a good job on saying no, worrying people would get hurt. While the truth is they are not that vulnerable. It’s okay people get upset if you are kind and fair.
6. Don’t fear taking calculated risks. Manage risks and opportunities before making a decision, and be aware of potential downsides.
7. Don’t dwell on the past. No experience is wasted. What I can learn from it matters. Live for the present and plan for the future.
8. Don’t make the same mistakes over and over. Always learn from mistakes.
9. Don’t resent other people’s success. I don’t resent. I choose to ignore. That’s how I deal with my Moment. For those I’m not familiar with or don’t care, of course. Definitely worth celebrating and feeling happy for my dear friends.
10. Don’t give up after the first failure. Keep trying until you get it right. I remember what a blogger once said about looking for a job. Don’t feel bad if you fail several interviews. Set a goal of 100. There’s a good chance you can make it before you reach this number.
11. Don’t fear alone time. I actually enjoy “me” time, a lot. Free to make arrangements, be calm with my thoughts.
12. Don’t feel the world owes me anything. One of the most important qualities, I think, is to be grateful. It’s okay if people don’t help me or the world doesn’t give me something. If they do, I’m gonna make sure they get something in return.
13. Don’t expect immediate results. I’m still working on this one. It’s easy to quit when you don’t see results. My solution is to treat myself once I make progress so that I can keep going.